Perhaps an archaic term in today's world, how would u define being a gentleman?
Slap the bejesus out of the wife then caress all red spots. Thats a gentleman.
I definitely agree with you on the archaic part. I almost think the term doesn't fit in today's context. Almost like describing what a programmer was like in the middle ages.
I would say there's a lot of physical characteristics to fit the classic definition, than just how one carries himself. Gotta be well dressed, sport a top hat and a handkerchief, pull chairs out for ladies, open doors for them. I think any Englishman in a Victorian era novel represents a gentleman.
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I would say there's a lot of physical characteristics to fit the classic definition, than just how one carries himself. Gotta be well dressed, sport a top hat and a handkerchief, pull chairs out for ladies, open doors for them. I think any Englishman in a Victorian era novel represents a gentleman.
http://artofmanliness.com/
Check that site out, I think it's a great blue print on how to become a real man's man.
@Crow- I think that's part of it, being courteous to others
@Vkimo- Haha I wish I came across that site a long time ago. My friends and I tried to make Man Club (no homo), which consisted of a long list of rules lol
Like u said, being well dressed/proper is def an asset as well
A couple definitions include mention of a "code of conduct," but I think that's way too vague
@Vkimo- Haha I wish I came across that site a long time ago. My friends and I tried to make Man Club (no homo), which consisted of a long list of rules lol
Like u said, being well dressed/proper is def an asset as well
A couple definitions include mention of a "code of conduct," but I think that's way too vague
I think there's a quiet confidence too. Ladies dig that. I stopped the gentleman act once I got into a committed relationship though, haha.
vkimo
I think there's a quiet confidence too. Ladies dig that. I stopped the gentleman act once I got into a committed relationship though, haha.
lol honesty, another important quality!
The feminist movement has distorted what defines being a gentleman or being a lady for that matter. Some women today see holding the door open, carrying her bags or pulling out a chair as being disrespectful. I could go into a big rant about it, but I'll save it for another time. I really could care less because if they find any of those things offensive that's their problem.
What defines a gentleman is somewhat cultural. For me....
Being well dressed. Not dressy clothes necessarily, but dressing appropriately for the occasion.
Being respectful to others.
Honesty.
Holding the door for others.
Standing when another adult enters the room.
Removing your hat indoors.
Offering a handshake.
Giving up your seat if another is not available to either a lady or an elder.
Saying stuff like "thank you", "Nice to meet you" and "have a good day".
What defines a gentleman is somewhat cultural. For me....
Being well dressed. Not dressy clothes necessarily, but dressing appropriately for the occasion.
Being respectful to others.
Honesty.
Holding the door for others.
Standing when another adult enters the room.
Removing your hat indoors.
Offering a handshake.
Giving up your seat if another is not available to either a lady or an elder.
Saying stuff like "thank you", "Nice to meet you" and "have a good day".
Now there's a word I haven't heard in a long time... a long time...
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Echidna64
Man Club (no homo)
Interesting topic! I heard about being a gentleman all my life living in the south. I never really heard about dressing like a gentleman. The only thing dealing with appearance and dress that I heard was at my first job in high school. We worked outside cleaning fish at a campground/fish hatchery/restaurant. The outside workers one summer started growing out their facial hair. We had a couple of beards, goat tees, etc... I sported some mutton chops. The owner said if we were going to grow beards like gentlemen then we should dress like gentlemen. I think the idea of dressing like a gentleman is from a completely different generation. I was taught strict manners as a kid: holding a door open, giving up my seat to a lady, helping the elderly, etc... As I got older, I learned to stand up to shake hands with an older man. I think what defines a gentleman has evolved over time, but there are certain aspects that will stay linked to it. In the end being a gentleman is about showing self respect and respect for others.
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Sorry but this doesn't work nowadays. Especially in cities/rural communities.
Some women take it as you are hitting on them or take you as a toy.
A complete gentleman is out of the question. You have to be subtle and not try to go Duke of Normandy on her ass.
Some women take it as you are hitting on them or take you as a toy.
A complete gentleman is out of the question. You have to be subtle and not try to go Duke of Normandy on her ass.
The word "gentlemen" is used loosely, especially when it comes to teenage boys.
I dated a girl from NY a few years ago. At the end of our first date I walked her to her car to make sure she was safe, she couldn't believe it. She said no guy in NY would ever do that. Maybe it's a southern thing but there are tons of gentlemanly things to do but most importantly you've got to show respect and put your lady first.
palmer10
I dated a girl from NY a few years ago. At the end of our first date I walked her to her car to make sure she was safe, she couldn't believe it. She said no guy in NY would ever do that. Maybe it's a southern thing but there are tons of gentlemanly things to do but most importantly you've got to show respect and put your lady first.
Funny you should mention that. I dated a girl from NYC and she didn't think it mattered who sat on the outside of the booth at a restaurant. I was brought up that women and children sit by the window (inner) and the man sits on the edge. This way he can offer protection. I mean if some guys started to give us a hard time what am I going to be able to do with her in the way? She refused to move and I honestly felt belittled. I didn't make a big issue of it, but needless to say we didn't date very long. Up north the younger crowd has a very progressive mindset. While I'm all for women's rights I think men and women have roles they should fulfill. I think marriages would have a lot less problems if there were some rules.
RetroxBunny
I would write an essay if I had to on this topic.
Could you spare a few bullet points?
Great stories guys! Yeah unfortunately sometimes when u offer to walk girls back for protection, they think you're just trying to get laid lol
bassman21
palmer10I dated a girl from NY a few years ago. At the end of our first date I walked her to her car to make sure she was safe, she couldn't believe it. She said no guy in NY would ever do that. Maybe it's a southern thing but there are tons of gentlemanly things to do but most importantly you've got to show respect and put your lady first.
Funny you should mention that. I dated a girl from NYC and she didn't think it mattered who sat on the outside of the booth at a restaurant. I was brought up that women and children sit by the window (inner) and the man sits on the edge. This way he can offer protection. I mean if some guys started to give us a hard time what am I going to be able to do with her in the way? She refused to move and I honestly felt belittled. I didn't make a big issue of it, but needless to say we didn't date very long. Up north the younger crowd has a very progressive mindset. While I'm all for women's rights I think men and women have roles they should fulfill. I think marriages would have a lost less problems if there were some rules.
Yikes! I would feel incredibly awkward and out of place sitting inside the isle. My girlfriend is left handed and when we walk and hold hands, she prefers me to be on her right. When I'm supposed to be on the left. It really throws me off, haha.
vkimo
bassman21palmer10I dated a girl from NY a few years ago. At the end of our first date I walked her to her car to make sure she was safe, she couldn't believe it. She said no guy in NY would ever do that. Maybe it's a southern thing but there are tons of gentlemanly things to do but most importantly you've got to show respect and put your lady first.
Funny you should mention that. I dated a girl from NYC and she didn't think it mattered who sat on the outside of the booth at a restaurant. I was brought up that women and children sit by the window (inner) and the man sits on the edge. This way he can offer protection. I mean if some guys started to give us a hard time what am I going to be able to do with her in the way? She refused to move and I honestly felt belittled. I didn't make a big issue of it, but needless to say we didn't date very long. Up north the younger crowd has a very progressive mindset. While I'm all for women's rights I think men and women have roles they should fulfill. I think marriages would have a lost less problems if there were some rules.
Yikes! I would feel incredibly awkward and out of place sitting inside the isle. My girlfriend is left handed and when we walk and hold hands, she prefers me to be on her right. When I'm supposed to be on the left. It really throws me off, haha.
LOL! Dude I have the same issue. The wife is a lefty and I have sat on the inside a couple of times b/c she didn't want to keep fighting for arm space as we ate. I've learned the key to a booth situation is to sit on the side where your right arm is closest to the aisle.
In my final meeting with the gods from the heavens above, as they spoke to me and hit me with the power of the Ultimate Warrior, they told me Exit stage left! Exit stage rig
bassman21
palmer10I dated a girl from NY a few years ago. At the end of our first date I walked her to her car to make sure she was safe, she couldn't believe it. She said no guy in NY would ever do that. Maybe it's a southern thing but there are tons of gentlemanly things to do but most importantly you've got to show respect and put your lady first.
Funny you should mention that. I dated a girl from NYC and she didn't think it mattered who sat on the outside of the booth at a restaurant. I was brought up that women and children sit by the window (inner) and the man sits on the edge. This way he can offer protection. I mean if some guys started to give us a hard time what am I going to be able to do with her in the way? She refused to move and I honestly felt belittled. I didn't make a big issue of it, but needless to say we didn't date very long. Up north the younger crowd has a very progressive mindset. While I'm all for women's rights I think men and women have roles they should fulfill. I think marriages would have a lot less problems if there were some rules.
Wow... I've never agreed more with a post on here.
In my final meeting with the gods from the heavens above, as they spoke to me and hit me with the power of the Ultimate Warrior, they told me Exit stage left! Exit stage rig