Remember that time your boyfriends crazy uncle got released from prison after 14 years (for plotting, planning and driving over a hundred miles to murder someone for the insurance $)and now he wants to meet your children?
Well, I do.:(
This is an ongoing argument between us. Do you think someone who is that messed up can change? and would you let them around your children?
Well, I do.:(
This is an ongoing argument between us. Do you think someone who is that messed up can change? and would you let them around your children?
misspiggy
Remember that time your boyfriends crazy uncle got released from prison after 14 years (for plotting, planning and driving over a hundred miles to murder someone for the insurance $)and now he wants to meet your children?
Well, I do.:(
This is an ongoing argument between us. Do you think someone who is that messed up can change? and would you let them around your children?
OoOoO that's a hard one. hmm.... ok I think that people can change but that doesn't mean that you should give them your trust. I wouldn't let him meet the children. But if he must and your bf is persistent then definitely don't leave them alone with him for a second. It is YOUR RIGHT to be cautious. He can't be offended by it either because it was his choice to get himself in prison in the first place.
System
79987 Posts
17 years, 4 months ago
sacredscred
OoOoO that's a hard one. hmm.... ok I think that people can change but that doesn't mean that you should give them your trust. I wouldn't let him meet the children. But if he must and your bf is persistent then definitely don't leave them alone with him for a second. It is YOUR RIGHT to be cautious. He can't be offended by it either because it was his choice to get himself in prison in the first place.
Yeah I agree here. Thats a crapload of trust to earn from someone. But, on the bright side of things. Think of the fun he'd be during the holidays. ;)
DebrisStorm
Yeah I agree here. Thats a crapload of trust to earn from someone. But, on the bright side of things. Think of the fun he'd be during the holidays. ;)
lol. he is all paranoid acting from being in jail. sounds like a bad saturday night live skit doesnt it?
---> the paranoid ex con family memeber comes for christmas.
but seriously it feels like betrayal even talking to him on the phone since we talk to the victims family still. (after the trial my bf family became friends with the victims family because he had a wife and children he left behind when the crazy uncle had to ruin their life)--I dont think I can tell them they cant come over after bowling cuz the man who killed their dad is here...AAAHHHHHH! what an effin mess.
misspiggy
lol. he is all paranoid acting from being in jail. sounds like a bad saturday night live skit doesnt it?
---> the paranoid ex con family memeber comes for christmas.
but seriously it feels like betrayal even talking to him on the phone since we talk to the victims family still. (after the trial my bf family became friends with the victims family because he had a wife and children he left behind when the crazy uncle had to ruin their life)--I dont think I can tell them they cant come over after bowling cuz the man who killed their dad is here...AAAHHHHHH! what an effin mess.
Maybe don't bring him to your place. Meet for dinner at a restaurant or something.
Shazbot
Maybe don't bring him to your place. Meet for dinner at a restaurant or something.
that would be a good idea except his parents live next door and I cant just lock the doors....they know when we are home, we have to pass their house to leave.
misspiggy
This is an ongoing argument between us. Do you think someone who is that messed up can change? and would you let them around your children?
Jason43
1494 Posts
17 years, 4 months ago
I'd just give him some excuse and never get around to meeting him. He's been in jail all this time, along you and your family come, meeting him for dinner and being nice and polite to him(even if it is an act). Next thing you know, you're his new buddy on the outside. You'll never be rid of him.
Good luck to you, misspiggy. Stand your ground and go with your gut instinct.
Jason43
I'd just give him some excuse and never get around to meeting him. He's been in jail all this time, along you and your family come, meeting him for dinner and being nice and polite to him(even if it is an act). Next thing you know, you're his new buddy on the outside. You'll never be rid of him.
good point.
How long can you keep that up though? You have to deal with it sooner or later. Do you keep an AK-47 in the house? you probably should...right next to the A-Jax.
kayvee
How long can you keep that up though? You have to deal with it sooner or later. Do you keep an AK-47 in the house? you probably should...right next to the A-Jax.
well what I have done so far is:
-when he calls our house I call him by his given name and that pisses him off because He changed his name to try and start over(he corrects me every time)
-Also when I am around him I basically am really rude. I don't talk to him and when He asks me a question I just ignore him a couple of minutes untill he repeats himself, then I answer with stuff like " yeah, I guess man"
-and when he talks to me like he is reformed now I say" wow thats great, hope that works out for you"
I am doing all of this in an effort to let him know that he isn't welcome (by me at least)
and by the way yes, I do have a couple guns in the house...and a huge dog too. Problem is everyone is acting like he is good as gold now and that he would never do anything again but they most likely didnt think he would do anything then either. My protective momma feathers are fluffin' up.
its not like he is a psycho all he was doing was making money
so your kids would be safe since they dont have a price on their heads
so your kids would be safe since they dont have a price on their heads
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