would never vent about something like this but I just need to vent.
This is the whole reason why there's so much tension in my family and the entire reason why I avoid my aunt at all costs.
We were having dinner one night and she decided to test me by offering me second helpings. My mother made me aware that she made a snide remark about how I would "eat anything that's shoved under my nose." (Like it's her fucking business anyways? )
I have no clue where all of this blind hatred towards me is coming from, and I really don't care where all of this hatred towards me is coming from, but she's pissed at me for some reason.
The only reason I can think of why she hates me so much is because I had asked for my grandmother's arm chair when I'm ready to move out. I'm not ready to move out just yet because of finances.
She pisses me off every chance she gets and then she wonders why I don't come in to say hi when she's here. This is why, when I move out, I'm not going to tell anyone where I'm going to move to. So nobody can find me.
This is the whole reason why there's so much tension in my family and the entire reason why I avoid my aunt at all costs.
We were having dinner one night and she decided to test me by offering me second helpings. My mother made me aware that she made a snide remark about how I would "eat anything that's shoved under my nose." (Like it's her fucking business anyways? )
I have no clue where all of this blind hatred towards me is coming from, and I really don't care where all of this hatred towards me is coming from, but she's pissed at me for some reason.
The only reason I can think of why she hates me so much is because I had asked for my grandmother's arm chair when I'm ready to move out. I'm not ready to move out just yet because of finances.
She pisses me off every chance she gets and then she wonders why I don't come in to say hi when she's here. This is why, when I move out, I'm not going to tell anyone where I'm going to move to. So nobody can find me.
Funky_Guy
2638 Posts
16 years, 8 months ago
"No one should have to speak with family. If I were king, I'd make it a law." - Al Bundy
Jason43
1494 Posts
16 years, 8 months ago
You should have thrown the mashed potatoes at her.
Just be nice to your aunt and hate her privately. When it comes to family, you never know when acting out towards her could come back and bite you in the ass.
Alternatively, you could just ask her why she seems to not like you.
Alternatively, you could just ask her why she seems to not like you.
Ilikethepixies
Just be nice to your aunt and hate her privately. When it comes to family, you never know when acting out towards her could come back and bite you in the ass.
:D that is the best advice I have ever heard. I am going to immediatly start applying it to my boyfriends parents(they live next door,everyone loves Raymond style).
Just say hi and leave it at that when you see her. You dont need to be buddy buddy with her just do that and take your leave.
MattNash
4135 Posts
16 years, 8 months ago
Celeste
... she made a snide remark about how I would "eat anything that's shoved under my nose."
Well, is that actually true?
System
79987 Posts
16 years, 8 months ago
dude you aren't the only one who has terrible family affairs. my uncle got back home from a trip to connecticut and my aunt blew all of the credit card money and bank account money on "groceries". he left her ass for good soon after. as for the rest of my family, well, let's just say my actual parents are the only ones who cause me problems in my life....
Benjanime
dude you aren't the only one who has terrible family affairs. my uncle got back home from a trip to connecticut and my aunt blew all of the credit card money and bank account money on "groceries". he left her ass for good soon after. as for the rest of my family, well, let's just say my actual parents are the only ones who cause me problems in my life....
Don't tell me your mom hangs beehives from the livingroom ceiling too. :cry:
Celeste
This is why, when I move out, I'm not going to tell anyone where I'm going to move to. So nobody can find me.
kind of like hide 'n' seek?
can you leave a clue as to where you'll be?
Wait.
What if nobody comes looking for you? That would suck. What if it turned out like an episode of the Twilight Zone and you came back and nobody knew you! That'd be crazy!
System
79987 Posts
16 years, 8 months ago
misspiggy
Benjanimedude you aren't the only one who has terrible family affairs. my uncle got back home from a trip to connecticut and my aunt blew all of the credit card money and bank account money on "groceries". he left her ass for good soon after. as for the rest of my family, well, let's just say my actual parents are the only ones who cause me problems in my life....
Don't tell me your mom hangs beehives from the livingroom ceiling too. :cry:
my mom, age 52, is 7 years older than my dad. my dad hates seeing my mom coming home from work, always on the couch. he's said at least a dozen times already that because she barely goes anywhere with him, that it could "corrupt their relationship". almost every time i go and visit, but don't want to. but since i don't see my parents very much, i guess i have no choice. i just get so uncomfortable when they bring it up, and i try to settle things down
I've had predominantly bad experiences with family, including ones other than my own. Most of my family is a few cans short of a six-pack, with the exception of my dad and my grandmama (who is 94 years old and not actually my grandmother, but that's beside the point a bit).
I don't really associate with the majority of them because I just can't stand to be around them. If something bad happened to them, I would feel bad and do what I could to help, but I don't like to sit around and visit with them unless I have to.
My fiance's family is even worse because they seemed all nicey-nicey, but they pulled a 180 on me and became pretty damn hateful. I only associate with them if my fiance asks me to do so; thankfully, he doesn't do that very often because he seldom wants to visit them himself.
I don't really associate with the majority of them because I just can't stand to be around them. If something bad happened to them, I would feel bad and do what I could to help, but I don't like to sit around and visit with them unless I have to.
My fiance's family is even worse because they seemed all nicey-nicey, but they pulled a 180 on me and became pretty damn hateful. I only associate with them if my fiance asks me to do so; thankfully, he doesn't do that very often because he seldom wants to visit them himself.
Benjanime
misspiggyBenjanimedude you aren't the only one who has terrible family affairs. my uncle got back home from a trip to connecticut and my aunt blew all of the credit card money and bank account money on "groceries". he left her ass for good soon after. as for the rest of my family, well, let's just say my actual parents are the only ones who cause me problems in my life....
Don't tell me your mom hangs beehives from the livingroom ceiling too. :cry:
my mom, age 52, is 7 years older than my dad. my dad hates seeing my mom coming home from work, always on the couch. he's said at least a dozen times already that because she barely goes anywhere with him, that it could "corrupt their relationship". almost every time i go and visit, but don't want to. but since i don't see my parents very much, i guess i have no choice. i just get so uncomfortable when they bring it up, and i try to settle things down
People are mean because their life is so pathetic they want to be jerks to make themselves feel better. Like, if they tear someone else down it makes them feel better and covers up their own problems for a bit.
My advice is to just ignore her or be nice (but not overly nice). She's getting to you which is probably what she wants, don't give her any more fuel.
Sorry you're having family issues, I don't understand why people need to be so mean to those closest to them. Are you getting any sort of support from other family members? Do they see what she is doing too?
My advice is to just ignore her or be nice (but not overly nice). She's getting to you which is probably what she wants, don't give her any more fuel.
Sorry you're having family issues, I don't understand why people need to be so mean to those closest to them. Are you getting any sort of support from other family members? Do they see what she is doing too?
Celeste
She pisses me off every chance she gets and then she wonders why I don't come in to say hi when she's here. This is why, when I move out, I'm not going to tell anyone where I'm going to move to. So nobody can find me.
Sorry to hear about how your aunt is treating you. If you're going to disappear, be sure your number is unlisted and unpublished. Otherwise they'll find you.
Like some of the other people already have said, just avoid her mostly but be nice when necessary. Just when you leave, don't disappear on your friends. Unless of course they have big mouths. :shock:
Video may have killed the radio star, but reality crapfests killed the video.
System
79987 Posts
16 years, 8 months ago
misspiggy
I'm sorry Benjanime, I didn't completly understand what you were saying. What does your dad think is threatening to corrupt their relationship?BenjanimemisspiggyBenjanimedude you aren't the only one who has terrible family affairs. my uncle got back home from a trip to connecticut and my aunt blew all of the credit card money and bank account money on "groceries". he left her ass for good soon after. as for the rest of my family, well, let's just say my actual parents are the only ones who cause me problems in my life....
Don't tell me your mom hangs beehives from the livingroom ceiling too. :cry:
my mom, age 52, is 7 years older than my dad. my dad hates seeing my mom coming home from work, always on the couch. he's said at least a dozen times already that because she barely goes anywhere with him, that it could "corrupt their relationship". almost every time i go and visit, but don't want to. but since i don't see my parents very much, i guess i have no choice. i just get so uncomfortable when they bring it up, and i try to settle things down
it's kinda complex. when they take a shower he wants to "have fun" with her. but every time when she gets off of work she's pretty exhausted. i just don't think he can accept the fact that she's getting old. i'm pretty sure they did this sexual stuff in the past, but i wouldn't know. my brother and sister could back me up if they started arguements but now they're gone and it's not the same...
haha--what the hell? They argue about their sex life in front of you? That's so funny.
The best way to vent is probably to install a convection air movement system which both heats your house in the winter and cools it in the summer, while providing fresh air year round.
System
79987 Posts
16 years, 8 months ago
kayvee
haha--what the hell? They argue about their sex life in front of you? That's so funny.
i know, pretty stupid. and they argue about the stupidest shit
Always put your earbuds to your ipod in when they start that crap, then when they stop take them back out. Sooner or later they will stop and if not, then you get a little extra time to listen to some music you like. It has to be better than hearing about their sexlife. That way you are off the hook because you did in fact visit but it would be their fault if they used that time to talk about sex crudly in front of you instead of spending that time properly with their child. Sounds like your parents have boundry issues.