Thread: Good parenting or over reaction?

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    • 8 years 5 months ago
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    Just wondering if anyone's seen this. I personally am with the father on this, but of course there are some saying he's being too harsh and all that crap.

    http://www.litefm.com/cc-common/mainheadlines3.html?feed=421220&article=9738000
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    • 8 years 5 months ago
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    I don't think he's overreacting at all. This guy just took parenting to a whole new level.
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    • 8 years 5 months ago
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    Next time I'll tweet your ass around!
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    • 8 years 5 months ago
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    Social networking sites cause so much shit. I'm so glad they really didn't have them when I was her age.

    I think the father took the post too seriously. If my kid did that I laugh about it and then show her how a slave really has to works (for a day). Taking away her computer for good and embarrassing her world wide seems a little harsh.

    People always praise parent that do unusual punishments such as taking Christmas away or making them stand on the corner holding a sign. They feel kids don't get enough discipline and that the punishment is somehow going to change how young people are. Well it isn't. It's just embarrassing that one child and proving that the parent has failed on some level.
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    • 8 years 5 months ago
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    Quote by bassman21
    Social networking sites cause so much shit. I'm so glad they really didn't have them when I was her age.

    I think the father took the post too seriously. If my kid did that I laugh about it and then show her how a slave really has to works (for a day). Taking away her computer for good and embarrassing her world wide seems a little harsh.

    People always praise parent that do unusual punishments such as taking Christmas away or making them stand on the corner holding a sign. They feel kids don't get enough discipline and that the punishment is somehow going to change how young people are. Well it isn't. It's just embarrassing that one child and proving that the parent has failed on some level.


    I totally agree because that's a private matter that should have been discussed on a one on one basis. Kids ALWAYS do and say stupid things because its their nature and lack some of life's full experiences.

    As a parent he should have been a lot smarter than that because by getting 'even' his daughter, she might just up the ante and do something even more dumber. Besides, with or without Facebook kids will ALWAYS gossip about their parents with their friends behind their backs.

    Anyway, at least his video got 17m+ hits
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    • 8 years 5 months ago
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    I think it's interesting. At first I thought it was AWESOME, because I was like that is what she gets for being disspectful and posting about her parents for ALL to see after she has been warned time and time again and her father just spent all that money on her. Now I don't really know what to think. I mean it's one thing if he posted it on her facebook and only her closest friends could see it, but this thing has gone viral. I think in this sense the dad actually proved his own point by accident..you post something on facebook, no matter what, it's no longer private. She supposently had her settings set to private so that only her friends could see the rant she wrote, but if any of her friends liked the status or commented on it, friends of those friends would be able to read it, even if it's private, simply by clicking on "So and so commented on so and so's status". (Perhaps one of her friends friends friends put the video on youtube? i'm a little confused on that one. Did HE put it on youtube or someone else because the video only says he's putting it on facebook) His point was about being disrespectful and airing your dirty laundry everywhere and how haha for you because you didn't think i'd be able to see it. Then all of a sudden his video aimed at her, her friends and her friends parents goes viral and is seen everywhere.

    I like his "creative" parenting thinking (though I wouldn't do it myself lol. Though I guess never say never, my son is only 7) but it's harsh that it went viral. Though I seriously disagree with those that think he's abusive or him threatening to shoot her laptop and following through means he's going to shoot HER. It sounds like she's got a pretty cushy life, if what he says is true.


    All in all I think as a parent, your damned if you do, your damned if you don't. You spank your kids, your a rotten parent. You don't spank your kids, your contributing to the ever growing trend of "entitled youth". You put your kid in time out or sit and talk with them and EXPLAIN why they can't do things, your raising a "wimpy" kid that won't know how to function in the real world and YOUR the adult, you don't NEED to explain why. You discipline your kids in public (drag them out of the store, threaten with a spank, go through with the spank, yell at them, leave a full cart of groceries and take your kid outside the store) it's "humiliating" to the kid and "uncomfortable" for other shoppers, but if you DON'T do any of that and ignore the kid and let them "cry it out" your a rotten excuse for a parent that shouldn't "breed" and once again, it's "uncomfortable" for the other shoppers!!!. You put your kid on a leash, he's not a dog!! how dare you!!! would you like ME to put YOU on a leash?!?! your kid slipped out of your grip and got hit by a car? what a rotten parent you are, it's your fault!!!! your kid got kidnapped? what? weren't you watching them? what do you mean kids run don't like to hold hands and squirm and fight? my kid never gets out of MY grip because he's perfectly behaved and i've never had to yell at him or threaten to spank him or even raise my voice. You must be doing it wrong!! Your just a lazy parent! You can't win If you do any of these things, your wrong. If you do nothing, your wrong and your kid ends up being one of the ones talked about in threads like "are you sick of kids nowadays??"

    Although, if you put it out there in a video, you better be ready to be judged I suppose. Of course, your being judged every second as a parent anyway
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    • 8 years 5 months ago
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    Ridiculous. This is not how to teach children to deal with conflict. You're not teaching your kids to be smart, you're teaching them to act like children. Petty. How do I know this? Because my boss was clearly raised this way, and I reported his ass to the labor department last week for his discipline practices. He's barely looked me in the eye since. If you can't get away with doing it in the real world, you shouldn't be teaching it to your kids.
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    • 8 years 5 months ago
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    Quote by Sunriser
    Ridiculous. This is not how to teach children to deal with conflict. You're not teaching your kids to be smart, you're teaching them to act like children.


    I have to disagree. You must teach your kids to aproach conflicts in the smartest way possible. They don't need to be taught on how to be a kid. They already know that.

    So everytime there's a conflict you just let them get a popsicle and turn on the Xbox...
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    Quote by Sunriser
    Ridiculous. This is not how to teach children to deal with conflict. You're not teaching your kids to be smart, you're teaching them to act like children. Petty. How do I know this? Because my boss was clearly raised this way, and I reported his ass to the labor department last week for his discipline practices. He's barely looked me in the eye since. If you can't get away with doing it in the real world, you shouldn't be teaching it to your kids.


    I always look forward to your take on these kind of topics.

    I agree, but kids need to be treated differently than adults to a degree. With that being said I have met several people over the years that had to endure super strict parenting and painful punishments growing up. Most of them that get into positions of power later in life have a hard time dealing with people. I have met two cops that were raised this way and both of them bragged about how they beat up on people. One was a friend of mines now ex boyfriend. He worked at one of the high schools in the area. He would always tell stories how he would beat up the kids that gave him a hard time. The way he would tell the stories made it seem like it turned him on. He was also a total control freak with my friend.

    I could give you countless examples of overly controlling people that used their position of power to (I believe) let out their anxiety from overly controlling parents. The mommy and daddy issues just don't magically go away when people become adults. Accepting that your parents were right (which many do because it's easier to deal with) means you will have to become like them.
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    • 8 years 5 months ago
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    You can apply discipline without coming off as tyrannical. If you take your time to explain to your kids why something is bad instead of yelling at them. But nowadays just way too many kids are growing up with this "entitled' attitude to the point of being worrying

    As for this case,that's not going to be a happy Thanksgiving dinner...
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    • 8 years 5 months ago
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    As stated, he's an IT guy and admits there's ways around everything.. my guess is either he made an alt or he found it while upgrading the laptop (snooping)

    However, didn't we repeal SOPA/PIPA (and soon to be ACTA)? Doesn't these bills give the same power to the government? If so, why are we praising the dad but go and fight against SOPA/PIPA/ACTA?
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    • 8 years 5 months ago
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    Listen, I admire good parenting and teaching your children respect, responsibility and discipline. Heaven knows i could do better. But kids are going to say stuff when they are angry or upset and they should be held accountable. However, grounding her for 3 months and putting bullets into her computer is not only over the top but retardedly over the top. Because this could turn into long term resentment and not a learning moment.
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    • 8 years 5 months ago
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    COMPLETELY childish way to make a point. He will get no respect from her and deservedly so. Apparently he doesn't want to go "public" and keep this between him and his daughter. Bad news guy, you're exactly ass-backward.
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    • 8 years 5 months ago
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    he said she was already disciplined for a similar stunt in the not too distant past, obviously she did not learn her lesson. I bet emptying a clip into her computer got her attention though, this guy must have attended the Dirty Harry School of Parenting! and by the way i'm sure he did not think his little video would go viral it's no his fault that other people have taken an interest
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    "Gee dad, couldn't ya just remove the hard drive?"
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    also is it just me or does this guys look not exactly scream IT guy lol
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    • 8 years 5 months ago
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    Shooting a laptop with a gun was way over the top. I think this guy let this whole thing get to him way too much.
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    • 8 years 5 months ago
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    If he actually makes his daughter do all that shit, I'd say he's a little harsh. When I was kid, all I had to do for chores was the garbage once a week and I got paid 5 or 10 bucks for it. But at the same time, that kid is a little bitch. She should get a job but if she gets a job, I don't think she should have to do any chores other than her own (her own laundry). By the way, it may have been friggin awesome of him to shoot the laptop, I dont think he should have done that, what a waste.
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    • 8 years 5 months ago
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    Quote by darthmunk
    When I was kid, all I had to do for chores was the garbage once a week and I got paid 5 or 10 bucks for it.


    What?!.. man, if I only mentioned the word 'paying' for any chores my aunt will put me inside the garbage can herself.
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    • 8 years 5 months ago
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    I never had to do chores. Of course our house was always messy because my mom and dad worked full time. Once in awhile I would surprise my mom and clean the whole house. I never expected anything for it. Now that I'm older I think we should have been made to do some chores. Odd enough I like to clean though.

    I think this dad was a little controlling and created this whole mess with the way he has been raising her. I knew several kids that had strict controlling parents that also spoiled them. The results were very mean kids self centered kids.
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