SSJ_Jup81 wrote:
I know I'm late, but I feel that people are born that way. Think about it...why would anyone CHOOSE to be gay knowing how people are even persecuted, abused, and killed for it in some places? I do believe that some people do "choose" and are just the experimental type (or bi) or either try to pass as straight to try and rid themselves of what they may consider "unnatural feelings", but I feel that the majority of people who say they are gay were definitely born in that way.
To me, it's no different from people who identify themselves with being asexual (no sexual attraction towards either gender). If you sexually attracted to a person of the same gender, how is that not caused by having too many female hormones (if male) or too many male hormones (if female)?
You can't choose your sexuality, but I think you can choose your path (to a degree). My theory is certain doors (virtual doors) are open in a gay persons mind that stay shut in a straight persons. Likewise some door stay shut in a gay persons mind that open up for a straight person. For example a child that is molested will have doors opened in their mind and will go down paths that most will never have.
It starts at a very young age and the paths people go down start very young. Parents and adults in general will treat some children different than others. It might be because they are the youngest, are very cute or more sensitive than another child. A child that gets a lot of attention will develop a different personality than a child that is neglected. Therefore the path the two children are going down is going to likely be different. A good looking child will get treated differently than a not so good looking one. So certain doors are doing to open for each child and each will likely go down a different path in life. Just like a child in a poor broken home will have a much different life. This means different challenges and different experiences for each as they get older. Just like a child with strict parents will be lead down a different path than one with permissive parents.
In the case of sexuality it is my theory that something happens or several events happen which open certain door in their mind which in turn could ultimately lead them down a path which could lead to homosexuality. Think about it! We are all pretty much the same as babies. We know if we were switched a birth that our lives would be much different right? I mean we would be a different person if we were raised by a family much different than our own. Regardless if we want to admit it or not we are who we are because of how we were raised and what we have experienced. Why can't someones sexual preference be a result of their experiences since birth? So here are some foods for thought.
A 12 year old permissive/submissive child that is very sheltered meets another child. The other child for what ever reason has homosexual urges. He acts on them with the other child. Being the other child is so submissive rather than punching the kids out he lets him do it. It feels good just like it would if a girl did it. Now the question is, will that child ever be the same? Has some doors opened for that child that would not have opened had he not met that other child or if the child was a girl? It wasn't molestation because they are the same age. The child's upbringing which made him submissive made him an easy target for the other child to act on his urges. So his mother put him on a path which lead him down another path. Now this doesn't mean this kid will grow up gay, but again what path will those door that were opened lead him down? Will he go home and watch a gay porn video online and open up more door and more questions that his brother treated differently by their mother would never have to think about?
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