• 1 year 1 month ago
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    I imagine there was at least one time in your very young childhood when you were with mom and/or dad in a toy store, or even the toy section of a department store or supermarket and you saw something you liked and really wanted..."Mommy can I have this?"...Mom: "NO!"..."Mommy I want to have this NOW!"...Mom: "I said NO!"..."Mommy I want to have it WAAAAAH!!!" (at this point starts throwing a major hissy fit, likely throwing him/herself on the floor and starts crying, screaming and kicking)...mom grabs the kid's hand and drags him/her out of the store as the kid continues to scream and kick...OR, she eventually "gives in" and gets the kid what he wanted "just to shut him up and make him happy".
    I remember going through at least two of these "episodes" when I was little...one was when I wanted a Tonka truck (Trencher, to be exact) at this "mom and pop" toy store not far from where we lived and another time it was a toy ferryboat when we were at a ferry terminal watching the ferries come in and go out while vacationing down at the shore one year. In both incidents I wanted the item, but mom/dad wouldn't buy it for me...then I went into a screaming/kicking fit and I was dragged across the floor and out of the store. I eventually got a Tonka Trencher and a toy ferryboat...but not on the days I threw the temper tantrums!
    Please feel free to share your stories!
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      • 1 year 1 month ago
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      Nope never happened because I knew it would mean a trip to the car for an attitude adjustment. :P
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        • 1 year 1 month ago
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        Yes, I think I was one of those brats who had a temper tantrum in the store as a kid. :lol:

        Every time a family goes shopping at the mall or somewhere, you always hear things like "I want this!" or "Wahhh, I never get what I want!" That's what the moms usually say, anyway. :lol: Just kidding. :lol:
        There is a battle between two wolves inside us all.

        One is evil and the other one is good. Which wolf will win? The one you feed the most.

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          • 1 year 1 month ago
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          Ya! I remember my mom taking me to the Navy Exchange toy section to buy me a Tonka truck. But I saw a giant plastic Titanic that was waay bigger than any Tonka Toy. Yep, Mr. Cool here threw a fit until ma did my bidding.

          Saved my mom a ton of money that day, lol.
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            • 1 year 1 month ago
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            Now, if it was around this time of year or later, whenever I saw something I wanted at the store, my mom would usually say "Christmas is coming...maybe Santa Claus will bring you one".
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              • 1 year 1 month ago
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              I never threw tantrums in public, I was too embarrassed of looking like a brat in front of people 8)
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                • 1 year 1 month ago
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                I know I did for a coat in a store. My mother never stops reminding me. I threw a fit for prom dress when I was 17. All the dresses my mom picked out were ugly and didn't fit!

                I think I threw a fit for a Marshmallow Baby in a store.
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                  • 1 year 29 days ago
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                  Temper tantrums in the toy store usually lead to me and my bro getting an ass whoopin' in the toy store. On those days some kids left Toys R Us with bikes, some left with trains, some left with video games, I left with a red ass.
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                    • 1 year 28 days ago
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                    DirtyD1979 wrote:
                    Temper tantrums in the toy store usually lead to me and my bro getting an ass whoopin' in the toy store. On those days some kids left Toys R Us with bikes, some left with trains, some left with video games, I left with a red ass.


                    Yeah, I don't know why parents take their kids to toy stores or other places when they're not allowed to buy anything. My mother was abusive to me both physically and verbally and then she would take me to the mall and stores and sometimes when I asked to buy something simple she would totally humiliate and put me down. Sometimes parents need a good beating and how my mother treated me I could have had her arrested or blackmailed her into buying anything I wanted. Instead I absorbed everything that was going on and that totally messed me up as a human being when I was growing up that totally influenced my life from that point.
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                      • 1 year 28 days ago
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                      RomanBlade86 wrote:
                      DirtyD1979 wrote:
                      Temper tantrums in the toy store usually lead to me and my bro getting an ass whoopin' in the toy store. On those days some kids left Toys R Us with bikes, some left with trains, some left with video games, I left with a red ass.


                      Yeah, I don't know why parents take their kids to toy stores or other places when they're not allowed to buy anything. My mother was abusive to me both physically and verbally and then she would take me to the mall and stores and sometimes when I asked to buy something simple she would totally humiliate and put me down. Sometimes parents need a good beating and how my mother treated me I could have had her arrested or blackmailed her into buying anything I wanted. Instead I absorbed everything that was going on and that totally messed me up as a human being when I was growing up that totally influenced my life from that point.


                      My mother was hot tempered too and I would get my ass wooped if I embarrased her in a store, but she would wait until we were out of plane view. I've also had thoughts of how I could have had her arrested a few times when I was young, but like you I absorbed that kind of stuff too. I think all the negetive stuff sticks out more in our minds, and over the years we forget about a lot of the positive stuff. Maybe at that time it was all the good things she did that kept you from calling the police etc...

                      The way I see it is I'm satisfied with the person I turned out too be and all those experiences are what helped shape me, so I wouldn't change anything. Every day I read the news and see all these fucked up people doing fucked up shit and I'm glad I wasn't raised by their parents.
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                        • 1 year 20 days ago
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                        Heh, throwing a tantrum in a store. That's hilarious. In my home, minor fidgeting could be grounds for a spanking. I couldn't imagine what throwing a tantrum would have gotten me. I was a deprived kid who hardly got anything, so if I saw one of those little brats screaming his ass off in a store I couldn't help but scowl at them.

                        I remember when I turned 13. Deadbeat dad forgot my birthday. Mom didn't have any money. My Mom's friend took us to the mall with her two boys who were 10 and 11 to walk around. This woman was fairly well-off and her boys had a ton of NES games at home (I would have been happy to have 1/2 of what they had). The TMNT game had just come out and these kids were convinced their mom was going to buy it for them for some reason (it was no special occasion for them--just an average day). When she refused, the boys put on a disgusting, girly display of butt-hurt sobbing that they kept up for what seemed like forever. I seriously wanted to punch these two little punks.
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                          • 1 year 18 days ago
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                          Yodamite wrote:
                          Heh, throwing a tantrum in a store. That's hilarious. In my home, minor fidgeting could be grounds for a spanking. I couldn't imagine what throwing a tantrum would have gotten me. I was a deprived kid who hardly got anything, so if I saw one of those little brats screaming his ass off in a store I couldn't help but scowl at them.

                          I remember when I turned 13. Deadbeat dad forgot my birthday. Mom didn't have any money. My Mom's friend took us to the mall with her two boys who were 10 and 11 to walk around. This woman was fairly well-off and her boys had a ton of NES games at home (I would have been happy to have 1/2 of what they had). The TMNT game had just come out and these kids were convinced their mom was going to buy it for them for some reason (it was no special occasion for them--just an average day). When she refused, the boys put on a disgusting, girly display of butt-hurt sobbing that they kept up for what seemed like forever. I seriously wanted to punch these two little punks.

                          I let kids like that influence me some what when I was a kid. Not the throwing temper tantrums per say, but their overall attitude and mindset. For some reason I saw them as being the cool kids. Probably because they generally had things I wanted that we couldn't afford. If I knew what I know now I would have distance myself from them. Today I stay away from people that are whiny, demanding and selfish. My life is much better because of it.

                          If I ever have kids they will have more than I had, but I will not spoil them. I also will not tolerate bratty behavior. If you address it when they are toddlers it will not be an issue when they are 11.
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                            • 1 year 18 days ago
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                            People should realize that tantrums don't simply come from "spoiled brats" as people like to put it. There can also be some serious underlying mental turmoil that stems from abuse both physical and emotional, neglect, manipulation, etc. that can develop into mental disorders. I can speak from my own experience that when I was about 10 or 11 I became fed up with all the years of emotional abuse and prior physical abuse from my mother and not to mention her telling me that my father was such a bad man that sexually abused me, etc. even though I don't remember whether he did or didn't because I was 5 and only went on what my mother told me. This was my mother's way of controlling me by telling a boy that his father was horrible and he sexually abused me and then he robbed us from the little money he had when he moved out, etc. This was also supplemented by emotional and physical abuse and all-around neglect and total brainwashing and mind control for years to the point where I was just numb and spaced out often to get away from the emotional disturbances. She would constantly take me to church for years in a language she grew up on but for me I couldn't understand it fully because English was the language I was growing up with and learning in school. These services I would go to 2-3 times a week on top of funerals once a year or so and weddings of people I didn't know. I had no guidance in my life but only control and brainwashing. I would go to other people's houses whenever I could to get away from it all and my brother's behavior wasn't helping matters either because he was the victim of my mother too besides the physical abuse because he was older. What I'm trying to say is that tantrums can have some serious underlying problems because I threw "tantrums" too at home or in the car because of constant denial by my mother. Sometimes she would buy me something and then ridicule me for making her buy me this thing to the point that I didn't even want it anymore. People need to give kids some slack and compassion but it seems kids are often ignored and their behavior is overlooked as nothing more than "bratty behavior" and nothing more than a "problem child" that needs more punishment. Sometimes the children aren't the main problems and narcissistic parents, most often mothers, especially poor and religious mothers, can guilt, shame and manipulate you to the point where you exhibit regular behavioral disturbances.
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                              • 1 year 8 days ago
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                              bassman21 wrote:
                              Yodamite wrote:
                              Heh, throwing a tantrum in a store. That's hilarious. In my home, minor fidgeting could be grounds for a spanking. I couldn't imagine what throwing a tantrum would have gotten me. I was a deprived kid who hardly got anything, so if I saw one of those little brats screaming his ass off in a store I couldn't help but scowl at them.

                              I remember when I turned 13. Deadbeat dad forgot my birthday. Mom didn't have any money. My Mom's friend took us to the mall with her two boys who were 10 and 11 to walk around. This woman was fairly well-off and her boys had a ton of NES games at home (I would have been happy to have 1/2 of what they had). The TMNT game had just come out and these kids were convinced their mom was going to buy it for them for some reason (it was no special occasion for them--just an average day). When she refused, the boys put on a disgusting, girly display of butt-hurt sobbing that they kept up for what seemed like forever. I seriously wanted to punch these two little punks.

                              I let kids like that influence me some what when I was a kid. Not the throwing temper tantrums per say, but their overall attitude and mindset. For some reason I saw them as being the cool kids. Probably because they generally had things I wanted that we couldn't afford. If I knew what I know now I would have distance myself from them. Today I stay away from people that are whiny, demanding and selfish. My life is much better because of it.

                              If I ever have kids they will have more than I had, but I will not spoil them. I also will not tolerate bratty behavior. If you address it when they are toddlers it will not be an issue when they are 11.

                              Exactly. Me and my bro's mother did blister our backsides not because she was being abusive but because she was setting boundaries. She taught us "You're not always gonna get what you want." More kids these days would benefit from that. I remember a few years ago my brother worked in a toys r us and some bratty crotch larva actually told his mom to shut up in the video game department. And what's more she actually bought the overentitled little trouserstain an XBox. If I ever smarted off at my parents like that I sure as well wouldn't be walking out with an XBox. Parents these days are more like staff to their kids and it's because of helicopter parenting and namby pamby government officials who believe if you so much as say "no" to your kid it's child abuse.
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                                • 1 year 5 days ago
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                                ^ You can say that again,DirtyD. Hell,too long ago a mother got arrested...for letting her children play outside...while she was watching them... I wish to Hell I was kidding...

                                http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/sideshow/mom-sues-polices-she-arrested-letting-her-kids-134628018.html



                                As for me,I was such an spoiled little brat that I rather not remember... :(
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                                  • 1 year 5 days ago
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                                  What's even sadder is that happen here in Texas. I played outside alone when I was 6 years old and no one thought anything of it. Even today most of the kids around here play outside without parental supervision.
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                                    • 1 year 5 days ago
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                                    When I hear some small kid crying in a department store like Wal-Mart, my first thought is "Oh, it's on now.", knowing that the kid is making a scene, embarrassing his family.
                                    There is a battle between two wolves inside us all.

                                    One is evil and the other one is good. Which wolf will win? The one you feed the most.

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                                      • 1 year 4 days ago
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                                      I think parents often don't know or care enough to talk to their children with respect and that's what causes these tantrums. These kids may take disrespect and abuse from the parents for years and by the time you see them in the store and they get rejected, maybe the kid takes it as a sign that the parents don't love them for not buying something and that sends the kid into a "tantrum." Sometimes the children are emotionally wounded if they resort to this but the parents and other adults simply call these kids "spoiled" which often isn't fair to the child and again takes away focus from underlying problems the child may have.
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                                        You make a good point Romanblade. A lot of my tantrums as a kid were not really tantrums, but just general frustration with my parents. I was a smart kid and often times got things that my parents didn't. When I couldn't get them to see my point of view it made me angry. I had frustration with other authority figures too (ie school), but was often times too scared to express it for fear of punishment. This continues to this day with work and general rules in society.

                                        Fear may get a child to behave the way you want, but it doesn't make the behavior sincere. This often leads to anger and resentment which will worsen with age. The fact of the matter is parents are frequently wrong. The average person is society would agree, but the child has to tolerate it because they are a child. Many child behavioral problems are the fault of the parent. In some cases it may be a lack of discipline or spoiling, but it can also be from being inconsistent or too controlling.

                                        I remember seeing a control freak mother when I worked at Taco Bell back in the 90s. Her kid was probably 10 years old, but she was treating him like he was 4. She was nip picking everything he did from the way he held his taco to how he was sitting in the chair. At one point she brought him into the restroom and I could hear her spanking him on his bare bottom as well as scolding him, again for trivial stuff. The kid was so immature because he had no room to grow. His mom was a control freak that though she was doing the right thing, but she was really just keeping him from growing. I saw a similar mother when I took karate a few years before. She would spank and scold the kid just for being a kid. I remember she demanded that he come to her at once for doing something trivial wrong. When he hesitated because of fear she spanked him while saying "when I tell you to come, you come" Poor kid! I'm sure both of these kids had issues later in life if not to this day.

                                        Set simple rules and be consistent. Give kids more freedom with age. Save the punishments for the important stuff. Teach them independents with some rules. By the age of 12 a kid should be able to take care of themselves. If they still need constant supervision you have done something wrong.
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                                          • 1 year 4 days ago
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                                          bassman, thanks for those stories and I must say I relate fully to your experiences and observations about society. I can especially relate to the kids that you saw in and how the mothers didn't allow him to grow. When you physically, verbally abuse and neglect your child from a young age, they become emotionally stunted most times if done long and frequently enough because of the chemical reactions to the negative actions. The way my mother treated me was appalling and she's lucky I didn't turn her into authorities or no one found out about her treatment of me. Often abusers can break the will of an adult let alone a child and this gives them control over the person and doesn't allow any room to thrive. I actually felt like I was left behind on the emotional development scale compared to other kids. I was an intelligent kid with many interests and did well in school from an early age, but the treatment I received from my mother was criminal and this severely suppressed me emotionally which turned into anger, resentment and general depression from an early age. Often I masked all of this with my humor and smile. I remember often feelings depressed and lonely from a young age because I wasn't getting the respect and love that every kid needs and when the physical spankings with the belt long stopped, the verbal and emotional abuse remained and often opened up old wounds and memories. Having a mentally unstable mother as the head caregiver to a boy can have some insanely negative consequences. When you treat your child with respect and kindness, they will respond much better than berating and belittling them. My mother also spoke to me like I was a little kid most of my childhood. Often these type of mothers are not only neglecting the child's emotional and psychological well-being, but perhaps their physical health as well. I can't imagine such mothers feeding their children a proper diet of nutritious foods but rather cheap and quick solutions that don't serve the nutritional needs of a child. Medical and dental checkups are probably also neglected along with the other needs of a growing and developing child. It's really tragic how some mothers treat their children and stunt their potential and the person they could have become had they grown up in a loving and supportive environment. What's also interesting about society and your experiences is that these were examples of two boys being abused by their mothers. Would the abusive mothers be like this to their daughters in public, or does the fact that their child is a boy have something to do with their treatment? Little boys don't get the same kind of compassion and attention as little girls. If it had been a girl that was being controlled and spanked like that then someone may have stepped in, maybe not, but I feel the chances would have been higher or at least people would have shown their disapproval more openly. Generally these abusive mothers have little problem in disciplining their boys because maybe for their hatred of males in general? My mother was a single mentally ill woman who hated my father and I think much of her aggression was directed at me for that reason because I was his favorite son while my older brother was more on my mother's side. When my dad left when I was 5 because of my mother, I was left without a protector and the one person that loved me and enjoyed seeing me express myself. My mother also closed any contact between us and brainwashed my brother and I against him. My mother would also spank me from as young as age 5 for the smallest of things and for acting like a kid and holding me responsible for trivial matters. She would say that I was teasing her and that I was reminding her of my father when I would smile, laugh, tease because I felt neglected and I wanted to get her attention. She responded with brutal spankings and verbal assaults and then would leave me there alone crying. My cries were less irritating to her than my laughter. The abuse never disappeared and I knew nothing else. She even criticized me for not growing even before I hit puberty and would start reminding me of all the things I did wrong in her eyes in my young life up to that point. My mother was a vile woman and my childhood was as depressing as it comes and robbed me of so much. On top of my own emotional shame she inflicted on me, I also felt guilt for her because of her health problems and I even feared losing her because I felt I had nothing else left in this world because I was brainwashed into not liking my father and had no contact with him. Women can truly be evil and society needs to recognize that often it is the mothers who are the most abusive to their children.

                                          There's this guy named Stefan Molyneux that speaks often about child abuse and the effects it has on a child. He also speaks about politics, philosophy, etc. You can find his Youtube channel here:

                                          http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC3L8QaxqEGUiBC252GHy3w
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