• 1 year 7 months ago
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    I'm not talking about sibling rivalry, but an ongoing rivalry with a neighbor or a kid(s) at school. It could have been players on a competing team, a fellow team player or a kid in the group you hung out with. While rivals can be bullies, its generally seen as being mutual. Things may have went too far at time and you may have ended up getting into a fist fight with them (or worst!). You may have been trying to prove who was better at something, who could do the best practical jokes or maybe were always trying to see who had the best insults. Rivals usually don't like each other, but don't hate each other either. In fact deep down rivals may consider one other to be friends.

    I had several growing up. One was this black kid named Reggie when I went to private school. I knew him for 3 years from the 4th grade until the end of the 6th grade when he left the school. We were friends by all accounts, but were always having conflicts.

    My dad bought a Nissan pickup truck. When Reggie saw it he told me that my dad should have bought a Ford. This started an ongoing rivalry over which one was better. Of course neither of us knew what the hell we were talking about, but it went on for months. I think he just kept bringing it up to annoy me which he succeeded. I in turn annoyed him back by mocking the socks he wore. He always wore plaid socks with his tennis shoes and I mocked him for it every day. He in turn mocked me for using a large Popeye's chicken bag as a book bag. We were going to exchange gift during Christmas. He wanted a watch which cost like $3 and I don't even remember what I wanted. Well I brought him the watch, but he never brought my gift. This pissed me off to no end. To get even I pointed out to the teacher that his shirt didn't have a collar. She told him not to wear it again. Well he did and I pointed it out again. He got an hour detention after school for it. We got along OK in the 5th grade, but it started again in the 6th grade.

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      • 1 year 7 months ago
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      None that I would say were apparent "on the surface". But my cousin and I were two of the best artists in the school. I think there was a subconscious desire to have the art teacher favor one of us over the other.

      Often she (my cousin) would describe our styles of art the way she saw them, and I didn't necessarily agree with her description. She would say that I was the best at fantasy/comic book illustration, whereas she excelled at more realistic illustration. But I am going to confess to you all here that, I didn't think her "realistic" illustrations were all that "realistic".

      So yeah, I think there was a rivalry there, but not one that could be easily noticed by anyone else.
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        That reminds me of an old friend I had. When I would buy something he would go and buy one that was more expensive. For example I bought a new head unit for my car stereo. He went and bought one that cost several hundred dollars more. He did the same thing with cell phones, TV's, home theater systems, cars and computers. He always had to show me up so he could be on top. He was making more money than me at the time so he could afford it. Well technically he couldn't because ended up getting 40 grand in debt and screwing his credit up. Mommy and Daddy always helped him out too where I did everything on my own. Later on I was able to buy a house and pay cash for almost everything I own. Once it became clear that I was getting ahead in life and he wasn't he stopped being friends with me. He used to always make fun of me and put me down. I didn't realize it at the time, but he was jealous of me.
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          Ah yes. There were definitely those times, almost all of them in my youth, when my friends and I were trying to "one up" one another as far as our toy collections. Usually though, there was that element of jealousy because what I had was not the same as what they had, and vice versa.

          I have another, older cousin who was very much like the individual you described (and still is). Though, I had very little contact with him. He has a tendency to diverge from any point he is making in conversation into a rundown of everything he has that cost a lot of money and few people have. People like that rarely keep friends, except those looking to get something out of it.
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            I was a little white kid in a black neighborhood in Florida in the mid 80's. I had a busload of rivals. Good times.
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              djdedeo0 wrote:
              I was a little white kid in a black neighborhood in Florida in the mid 80's. I had a busload of rivals. Good times.

              I can relate. Oddly enough I now get along with black people better than I do whites. Back then I was dealing with hood rats.
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                Oh yes. First I had a couple of what today is refer to as a "frienemy". This neighbor kid and I were alsways butting heads about a ton of things and more than once did we ended up in the floor fighting. But then I joined the school baseball team and that's when i met the true spirit of rivalry...until I was 15. Then I lost all interest in sports and was just interested in girls and Iron Maiden.
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                  It's weird I've always been very competitive and some of my best friends have been my greatest rivals
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                    Just about everyone. I mean, a bunch of late 70's kids bumping heads with each other was like a code of honor. Still love'em chumps.
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                      I had friends turn into rivals in elementary school. I used to draw a lot and naturally would wind up befriending other kids who liked to draw. There have been times when my art would get picked for the bulletin board and special projects and received more recognition. Some friends turned rivals, I guess out of jealousy, started to pick fights with me and stuff. All I did at home was read comic books and draw my favorite pictures from them, so became a very good artist for my age. I wanted nothing more than to be a comic book artist for Marvel comics or Image, Today I'm an IT Systems Administrator, funny how that worked out.
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                        I have a cousin who is 2 months younger than me. I think my grandma used to pit us against each other. I hated that. She was so much better than me. She could do everything before I could. Except walking that was the only thing I seemed to master first.

                        I had this neighbor I lived next to for 2 years. The funny thing was my grandma (same one)really liked her. She thought me and the girl were the same age, but the girl was one year younger. Anyway she was one of those "your stuff is inferior to my stuff kid". She dissed like everything I owned. I remember she convinced me to get rid of my plastic molded wading pool because it was too small. I regretfully gave the pool to my younger cousin. My parents bought me a new and larger pool. Then she got one too which she never used. I think her parents were also trying to compete with my parents. The only reason my parents bought me a new bike was because I grew out of my old one. My knees were hitting the handle bars. I don't know why they were trying to compete with my parents. Her family had way more money than my family.

                        Later in junior high and high school I had a few academic rivals. I knew who was worth competing against, and who was out of my league in school.
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                          pikachulover wrote:
                          I have a cousin who is 2 months younger than me. I think my grandma used to pit us against each other. I hated that. She was so much better than me. She could do everything before I could. Except walking that was the only thing I seemed to master first.

                          I had this neighbor I lived next to for 2 years. The funny thing was my grandma (same one)really liked her. She thought me and the girl were the same age, but the girl was one year younger. Anyway she was one of those "your stuff is inferior to my stuff kid". She dissed like everything I owned. I remember she convinced me to get rid of my plastic molded wading pool because it was too small. I regretfully gave the pool to my younger cousin. My parents bought me a new and larger pool. Then she got one too which she never used. I think her parents were also trying to compete with my parents. The only reason my parents bought me a new bike was because I grew out of my old one. My knees were hitting the handle bars. I don't know why they were trying to compete with my parents. Her family had way more money than my family.

                          Later in junior high and high school I had a few academic rivals. I knew who was worth competing against, and who was out of my league in school.


                          It's funny how parents feel the need to compete with each other. Your story about the neighbor reminded me of a neighbor we once had. She was always one-upping me, so I was told. As a kid I didn't really pay attention to that stuff; I just thought her son's toys were cool. But thinking back I remember that when I got a Night Rider Big Wheel, he got one of those little electric motor kid cars (I think they were just coming out with those at the time), When I got a normal banana seated bike, he got a BMX, and so on.

                          The only time we ever got the upper hand was on one Halloween. He and I were both going to be ninjas lol. While his parents got him the regular crapy kid’s ninja costume that you would normally find in stores like Wal-Mart and such, my mom went to this special store and bought me a real authentic ninja uniform. I clearly had the better costume and the neighbor was stricken with envy lol. But like I said, as a kid I didn't really notice all the underlying drama, I became aware by listening to the grownups talk.
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                            We never had the money to compete with other kids when I was growing up, but I do remember a lot of other parents being this way. There kids had to be dressed in the best clothes, hair had to be styled and they had to have the latest toys. They had to make the best grades, be in the most extracurricular activities and have the most friends. Yes soccer moms existed when I was a kid in the 80s though baseball was more popular. The parents were the same way with each other and they used their kids as a status symbol. Their kids for the most part turned out OK, but their competitive nature they got from their parents was annoying. They tried extra hard to be one up if I ever had an edge on them. This was because people like me were seen as a nobody's.
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                              bassman21 wrote:
                              We never had the money to compete with other kids when I was growing up, but I do remember a lot of other parents being this way. There kids had to be dressed in the best clothes, hair had to be styled and they had to have the latest toys. They had to make the best grades, be in the most extracurricular activities and have the most friends. Yes soccer moms existed when I was a kid in the 80s though baseball was more popular. The parents were the same way with each other and they used their kids as a status symbol. Their kids for the most part turned out OK, but their competitive nature they got from their parents was annoying. They tried extra hard to be one up if I ever had an edge on them. This was because people like me were seen as a nobody's.


                              Yeah, same here, my mom made just enough money to keep us off of welfare, so we didn't have extra money for fancy things. I remember it was cool to wear GAP, GUESS, BOSS, Cross Colors, Polo, Nautica, and Starter. I can't say I didn't want that stuff because I really did, but it just wasn't in the cards for me at that time. Throughout elementary school I can count the number of name brand clothes I had on one hand lol; one Raiders Starter Jacket and a pair of Nike huarache sneakers. Not having much made the little things more enjoyable.
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