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brown_eyed1 8 years 11 months ago Posts: 1951	Okay, here's my problem: I'm 16 right now and my younger brother is 13. We're really close, he's one of my best friends. So we don't mind talking about a lot of things, even when I'm talking about boys or something. My point is, the other day I had to pee really bad (lol) and I couldn't hold it, so I walked into the bathroom while he was showering. I told him "sorry, I'll be out in a minute, I just have to pee." Besides, there's a wall that separates the toilet and the shower, so you'd have to really be tall to be able to see anything. I made sure not to look at him, and get his permission first. He let me in, so I used the bathroom fast and ran out--I mean, ew, right? But my dad got the wrong impression of it--he thought I went in there to see him naked. He heard me talking to my brother (about how i had to pee) and he couldn't make it out through the door so he thought we were chatting in there and i was watching him bathe. Not true. I knew I was invading his privacy, and i wouldn't have gone in in the first place if it wasn't an emergency. Now my father won't even let us be in the same room alone. But my brother's my best friend. I tried explaining this to Dad, and he told me something like, "I don't care." He misinterpreted the entire situation--it was completely innocent. Now my question is: Am I right or is my father? Please let me know. I don't want my father to think that the closeness my brother and I share is bordering on something else.
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Gorbash 8 years 11 months ago Posts: 361	Wow, that's a bit of a misunderstanding your dad has there . It would be best for your dad to understand you only nipped in only because you had to, even if you were both in there you still could not see each other. I don't think your dad should of acted so rationally

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Tetragrammaton 8 years 11 months ago Posts: 295	I don't think you did anything wrong, it's not like you were showering together. I think if you could get your dad to actually listen to you he'd understand, but I don't know how you could do that. Maybe you could say something like "so did you get off on watching us when we were little? No, then why would we?" Unless he's not receptive to you talking to him like that. :
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adventure_of_link 8 years 11 months ago Posts: 9769	i do this sort of this thing all the time when I need to wee and someone's in the shower then again other people do it my dad just barges in, since we're both guys so there is a misunderstanding WRYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY

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System 8 years 11 months ago Posts: 74809	Being a father of a newborn myself, I can kind of understand your dad's paranoia. You have to understand the mindset of a father. That being said, have you thought about talking to your dad, two on one, meaning your brother and yourself. Just explain the circumstance. Throw out the "brother is my best friend" thing. That only complicates the situation Be absolutely honest with him. Let him know it was an emergency. Throw out some light hearted notions to him(put himself in your situation). Believe me, what happened with you is not the end of the world.

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Iloveth80sfan911 8 years 11 months ago Posts: 2347	skoal bandit wrote: Being a father of a newborn myself, I can kind of understand your dad's paranoia. You have to understand the mindset of a father. That being said, have you thought about talking to your dad, two on one, meaning your brother and yourself. Just explain the circumstance. Throw out the "brother is my best friend" thing. That only complicates the situation Be absolutely honest with him. Let him know it was an emergency. Throw out some light hearted notions to him(put himself in your situation). Believe me, what happened with you is not the end of the world. I agree.
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If your dad won't listen, explain things to your mother and have her talk to him for you.
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evil-monkey 8 years 11 months ago Posts: 210	Yeah I think your father, brother, and you all get to together and discuss this situation. Talking it all out as adults is the way to go.
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mr3urious 8 years 11 months ago Posts: 3359	When my brother or my mom is in the shower, I go out in the backyard to pee.
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BlueRain 8 years 11 months ago Posts: 311	Brown-Eyed you should have just peed in your pants, just kidding. But I agree with Skoal-Bandit's advice. Hopefully your dad will cool off after a few days. I don't know what your dad is like, but do talk with him and have your mom there too.

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System 8 years 11 months ago Posts: 74809	mr3urious wrote: When my brother or my mom is in the shower, I go out in the backyard to pee. Me too. My mom caught me a few times and got super-pissed...(pun not intended)

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Cyber Bishop 8 years 11 months ago Posts: 2796	As a father of a 12 year old and 1 year old daughters I can say that your pop really seemed to misunderstand the situation. He should have been understanding and not jumped the gun so quickly.
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tha raw seven 8 years 11 months ago Posts: 846	-SA- wrote: mr3urious wrote: When my brother or my mom is in the shower, I go out in the backyard to pee. Me too. My mom caught me a few times and got super-pissed...(pun not intended) um...we staying on the same topic? i mean, help the girl out! anyway, maybe u should let ur bro talk to ur dad...for proof

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nippythefish 8 years 11 months ago Posts: 2713 Globally Banned	Cyber Bishop wrote: As a father of a 12 year old and 1 year old daughters I can say that your pop really seemed to misunderstand the situation. He should have been understanding and not jumped the gun so quickly. EXACTLY. Unless there's some history here that you're not sharing, your father made a huge mistake. You don't automatically assume the worst and confront someone like that without solid evidence. That's like calling someone suicidal just because there's rope in the house.

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